|My 1997 Jayco Camper Van, a Class B RV, 170K miles and going strong|
I've been planning this trip for quite a while. A few months ago, I bought a 1997 vintage camper van - a "Jayco" - which they don't make any more. It's a wonderful vehicle, let me tell you!
I had lots of work done on the van and it was more or less ready to go. But as things got closer to being real, I found that I was starting to hesitate. I was starting to think that I wasn't that keen on traveling after all...
Nothing could be further from the truth for me. Yes, I love my home, but I truly, deeply love just driving - going places!
And what was I waiting for? Things could change and it might not be as easy to just "take off" - if I waited!
|Snoqualmie Falls, Washington|
So off I went. I had some great adventures. I met some amazing people. And I drove over five thousand miles.
I can't wait for my next trip. I wouldn't change this one for anything. It's the best thing I've done for myself in years.
So when I wrote this email "Is It Time To Shake Things Up" - this is exactly what I meant!
Here's the email:
Tip of the Day: All growth involves saying good-bye to some things and saying hello to new possibilities. - Nathaniel Branden
Shake things up.
That's what you've got to do sometimes.
Whatever you're thinking about, I urge you, don't put it off. Find a way to do it.
Don't just keep thinking about it and planning it - do it.
This will clear your head about what's next in your life.
This will show you what you really want and what you don't want.
You may experience some holding back - some fear.
That's normal. When you break past that, you'll be so happy.
You'll feel the ease of being able to reach your goal.
Find a way to shake things up - if you've been in a rut for a while.
You'll be so glad you did!
Have a great day, and keep your Flirt on!
Author of The Reverse Ultimatum: How To Make Him Realize You're the One He Wants To Marry
Notes from readers:
I guess what I figured out is - you don't stop. I am living my charmed life and will continue until my man puts a ring on my finger. I see him two weekends a month ( because I am attending college, so I stay home to study), I still go out with friends, and need my "me" time.
At first it irritated him that I was less focused on him and more on me, the status quo was gone. He knows I have plans for the future so if he wants to be a part of them he needs to get on board 'cause this train is leaving!!!
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I began seeing a man last spring who had left his 8-year relationship and had dated one woman between that and asking me out. He was very upfront with the woman that she was a 'rebound' relationship and that he had no interest in any long term commitments.
That's what he said - but she didn't seem to hear it. After 3 months she told him she loved him and started taking him to look at houses in hopes of living together.
He bolted. He told me this so that I knew where he stood and not to have expectations.
When I started seeing him I had already read the Reverse Ultimatum. I asked for nothing and continued with my busy schedule. When I was with him I was entirely focused on him. When I was not, I was busy with my own life.
He told me he loved me in three weeks. He proposed in six months. Our wedding date is set for June and we have bought a house together.
This man tells me every day how blessed he feels to have me in his life.
Bottom line here - when a man says he isn't ready for a commitment, LISTEN to HIM! I see women all the time who think that his kindness and affections trump his words. They don't.
Mimi, I think you are bang-on with your advice and am living proof that letting a man chase you is the greatest gift you can give to both him and yourself!
This totally made my day! I love what she wrote: "I see women all the time who think that his kindness and affections trump his words. They don't."
Listen To His Words!! (And then take it from there!)
Here's my Reverse Ultimatum step-by-step formula: