The Secret to Finding Love

Love is pure.

Every moment of your day (and night), your heart is speaking to you.

Do your daily actions and thoughts line up with your love life - or the love life you dream of?

People like to think they're always right about everything; that they judge others correctly.

But if ever you find yourself judging someone harshly, instead of that being "right," it's more often than not a sign that you lack understanding or empathy for that person.

Example: A woman presents herself as being highly spiritual, loving, warm, living life to the fullest.

But that same woman gets triggered to raging ugliness when it comes to any mention of Trump. Then everything is "black and white" with no middle ground or reasoned discussion.

Another woman is a "certified life coach" hoping to charge huge fees and gain clients and recommendations.

That same woman screams at the hapless high school senior behind the counter at the pet store... when returning a collar she bought for her cat.

Those same two women want everyone to think they're wonderful; image is everything, blah blah, but their actions reveal, at best, a struggle they're not winning.

And now for the worst example... a 3rd woman engages in backstabbing and sabotage to undercut another woman she doesn't like.

She speaks ill of her "rival" subtly, and secretly hopes to see this woman fail.

She thinks of herself as very evolved, though! And frequently tells other people stories to demonstrate how evolved she is.

Do you think any of these 3 example women are truly happy right now?

Truth is, it wouldn't take too much to plunge them into despair.

Just one thing would have to go wrong to unravel their world in a hurry.

It really all boils down to one thing:

Do you feel love for others; do you respect others?

Not just the ones you like?

Not just the ones who are "successful" in the eyes of others?

Do you open your eyes in the morning with love in your heart toward everyone...?

Can you overcome what "triggers" you, for your own sake and the sake of everyone you encounter every day?

If so then you're well on your way to a life full of love and happiness...

A pure heart finds love.

A Heart-Wrenching Letter from a Young Husband Working on the RMS Titanic

Before cell phones, Facebook, and the like, there were hand-written letters.

Letters brought out the poet in people. Letters were lovely to receive in your mail, too.

Richard C. Geddes (Henry Aldrich and Son)

Just recently, a letter was discovered which made news. It was written by a young husband and father who worked aboard the RMS Titanic.

His last letter to his wife was posted just before the ship set sail on its doomed maiden voyage.

His name was Richard Geddes, and he wrote an affectionate letter to his wife Sally:

“My dearest Sal, We got away yesterday after a lot of trouble.

"As we were passing the New York and Oceanic the New York broke her ropes and very nearly ran into us, but we just happened to avoid a collision.

“I hope you are feeling good and not worrying. I am feeling pretty good.

"With fondest love and kisses to my dear wife and kiddies.

"Your affectionate husband Dick xxxxx”

(You don't hear that nickname for Richard as much these days, but back then there were a lot of Dicks. There are a lot of them now too, but in a completely different way, I dare say.)

This letter made news because no one knew before about the near-crash with another ship shortly after the Titanic set sail.

What struck me about this beautiful letter was the warmth, love, and affection in the words of this 31-year-old man.

People would commonly address others in letters as "My dearest.." and sign themselves "Your affectionate..." and much more.

But here's the truth:

Despite the fact that people don't write letters the way they used to....

Men still have this love and affection in their hearts.

Men still want to find the right woman to bestow all this love upon... not just for a short time, but for life.

Now how can this be when your man is acting distant?

When he's being distant, you must not lose heart.

You must not take this as a sign to lose your confidence!!

You must distance the distancer.

If he's pushing you away, then don't be around. Go off and live your life.

Be the woman he has to find.

Be elusive. Let him wonder what YOU'RE thinking.

Are you a mystery to him, or are you always an "open book"?

Which one intrigues him more?

I think you know the answer to that!

When you aren't always spilling out all your feelings to the point that it's TOO much for him to handle...

Then he can relax with you!

That's a key part of the Essence of Being Hard To Get.

Giving him more distance than he wants is KEY.

But this doesn't mean you don't come back to him when he makes a grand gesture in your favor!

Men love to prove their love... if only you let them!

Have a great day, and keep your Flirt on!

With love,
Mimi Tanner
Author of Hard To Get: The Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart